Priorities of Life by Mrs. Prudence

Intro

Hello my name is Mrs. Prudence, I'm an advocate for truth and human greatness. Since there's many things that I have to share with audiences willing to hear about it, I asked Prudence if I could start doing posts on his website. My articles will contain insights gained from personal experiences and some are slightly adjusted to be more accessible for the reader and easier to understand without needing excessive details.

On a more personal note, I have some very decent life experience working fulltime and have found wisdom through experimenting with human limitation, intellectual understanding, emotions, psychology, mentality, creativity, religiosity, spirituality and abilities in my own life. I have successfully manifested countless blessings and have been a motivator and leader to many on my journey.

Now I'm hoping to reach a larger audience on a less personal level through means of online publication. Since my insights are coming from personal grounds they are not meant to be seen as ultimate truth or the only way, merely as a guide for those who feel spoken to and who it may be of use for. With that being said, I hope these words may be favourable to you. I'm grateful to be a part of this platform which is an amazing step in human existence and I know of will go down in history. I'm thrilled to gain more wisdom and unity through these means of connecting with human beings as well as every other being existing in our universe. Thank you Prudence. Thank you Divine.

When it comes to our personal journey towards becoming a better human being, somewhere along the way we gain more awareness and ability to observe our own thoughts and behaviors.  Along with that, in this modern world, if we want to be successful in any craft, career or other life goals, we can't impulsively throw something against the wall and see whatever sticks. Moving forward, can only be done with the right intent, to make your every move with purpose, knowing where you are headed. At least for the time being. It's not so much about knowing precisely everything in detail, but those who have been the most successful in life, set their goals.  Since we've already talked about manifestation and the need for rest and relaxation and their functions, there is another important factor in play that will eventually help us achieve some of the most fulfilling things in life that we can get: love and safety. 

But like anything else, nothing can be achieved by thinking it will come to us. We need to do something for it, but we should also be open to receiving from unsuspecting corners.   It's not just by working ourselves to the bone, as that can be distracting ourselves with other aspects of life too. Not that there is anything wrong with choosing other areas in life first, if that requires our focus.   Learning how to find more peace of mind in seemingly stressful situations, is a very useful skill to attain, more than some will ever be able to achieve or even prioritize.  We need to understand what it is that we need, we need to get to know ourselves. Believe it or not, everything that you want to achieve, is possible. But you need to proactively make the decision. Choose a less busy job, choose more time with your loved ones, choose more time to do what makes you happy. You've probably heard this before; ‘I don't have time to meditate’ or ‘I don't have time for hobbies’.

Know that these are all decisions in life, and learning how to be honest with yourself, and actually knowing that you DO have time for it, but are choosing to prioritize other things first, is half the work. Deciding to be honest will get you more in touch with who you are, it will bring you closer to the truth of who you are. Be courageous.  In our (corporate) world we are rewarded for putting ourselves last, for being tough on ourselves and submitting to being a slave. The world is ran by corporations and businesses, and because of this, we are taught and programmed that there's only several ways to live life and there's not many other options. Making money has long been thought to give the most happiness, because that's what gets us what we want, doesn't it? Wrong. 

Money is only capable of giving you what you want in bigger amounts.   Money can't create loving relationships, doesn't fulfill emotional needs (perhaps temporarily) or gives actual deep contentment in life. We can easily conclude this from the richest on earth. They most often find their lives unsustainable emotionally and tend to break down to the amount of stress and fame.  How do we do work towards deep contentment?  If we want to achieve what can't be bought, we need to take our lives more seriously and see where we can improve, what has REAL priority? Which parts of us need to be broken down so we can build ourselves up again and let go of an old version of us?   I proactively chose to give my all on my job and learn more about who I am during work. 

But even that wasn't enough to help me sustain what I thought I wanted, instead I received the love of my life in return and a much, much better job. After the end of a very rough decade, I felt that my physical and mental health had to be my priority. And with that, came along my peace of mind. I excluded all that was not contributing to it, including making new friends and dating, I even limited family days. Improving and recovering, requires discipline and determination. Sometimes this means certain relationships have to be put on the backburner because they are too disruptive in sensitive times. Sometimes it means you need to rework your diet and your exercising schedule. Choosing to prioritize our own wellbeing is not promoted in the modern day because we are not taught to do this. I'm not speaking of hygiene or health care.

Those are the basic needs, that are often looked at as something far more obvious. No, our society has grown to get a distorted view on what life should look like, drilled into our subconsciousness by the corporate world.  The mental health has been overlooked for centuries. Everyone has encountered at least some of these situations where others are giving their negative opinions of us when we choose to do nothing and isolate. Moments of judgement.  But please take note of what I'm trying to tell you. The moments of silence and quiet are actually the moments where we are able to look into those aspects in our lives where we can make progress. We're more than physical beings. And our abilities beyond the physical will not manifest or come to fruition when we don't have these moments of stillness.  I hope you understand now where I'm going with this.

Life is not all about working for money and survival, if we want to lead a healthier and happier life we should take the time to do what actually helps us to find that deep inner peace and do more of THAT. When we find more inner peace our environment will respond better to us as well.  When I came out of that rough time in my life, I knew what I wanted and I knew what I didn't want. I needed the time, set strict boundaries, I was very protective of my decisions and goals and really sat down to rewrite on what I wanted my new life to look like. My overall health wasn't the greatest, I'd gone to therapy sessions that were targeting the areas that I was struggling with, I went to work that didn't require too much thinking, worked on my physical body and nutrition. These were going to be the parts that I needed to focus on, and slowly but surely I grew a closer connection again with my family as well. Everything around me started to come to fruition, by improving on myself.  

Nearing the end of this article, I'd like to summarize that when we want to get somewhere, we need to actively choose to heal and prioritize our core being. When we do that, this will help us not get overwhelmed with the rest of our goals in life.   Sure, there may be instances where health only gets as good as it gets, and these can be challenging situations, I'm mostly speaking for those who can heal.  And I'd especially like to stress this: if you are struggling with overwhelming circumstances in life, my rule of thumb is to deal with your basic health first, even if that's food or sleep.

We are like computers. Some processes are running in the background and will overcomplicate everything. We need to shut them down and banish them, but never by denying that it exists. Without health, there is no clear focus. We lose sight of our goals, we are getting sucked back into the matrix.  If you want to move ahead in life, these are some of my best advices summarized from this article.  

1. Choose not more than 2-3 areas of life to improve on and the same time. One of them specifically related to your health. Keep at them till you at least feel it's not taking you any more effort, you can always review later whether they are still adding value to your life.

2. Exclude other areas of life that will add to your stress levels and won't give you energy. Put them on the backburner while you're prioritizing and be firm about this. Ask yourself with every opportunity presenting itself, whether you are taking it because YOU want to.

3. Do not allow others to throw you off from your plans and decisions, stay consistent. Even if you feel that you are being guilt tripped, do not settle for this. You are the director of your own life and decisions, your own course. 

4. Once you've incorporated more peace in your life, slowly start setting small achievable goals and routines towards your happiness. Find tools and systems that will help you make your life easier and calmer. (Simple improvements are calendars, lists and reminders on your phone, having to remember everything from appointments to shopping lists will eventually add to the pile of stress and burdens) 

5. Stay consistent. 

Remember that everyone has their own journey and pace of how long it takes to recover. I've had situations where friends were telling me I had fears of getting back into a relationship, where I knew that wasn't true. I had chosen to give myself time to recover and focus on becoming a healthier person and someone that was nice to be around. Without excessive trigger responses and hurts. I wanted to be the best person I could be for my future partner when they would present themselves, even though a partner was not my first motivation.  

If I'd chosen to listen to those opinions, I wouldn't be where I am now. Being told you make decisions based on a different motivation than what you are, is gaslighting. Anyone is capable of doing it, and this is another great reason as to why it's best to limit your social contacts while you're working towards your goals. They are YOUR goals, not anyone else's, and others will not understand your experience, your motivations and feelings. They have no place getting involved with your life.  

We all deal with unique circumstances, so no one else should direct us on how we should lead our own life. Working on yourself and your health is a human right, a basic need and necessity. The more we actively choose our direction in life, the more we are stepping into leadership, we become stronger. The idea is that you become immovable by externals but motivated by the drive for striving to become the best person you can be.  

And sometimes, being the best you can be, is just curling up on the couch and reading a good book. Rest has a purpose, we should not be afraid of stillness in life, because it will be more productive in the long run. Those who aren't afraid of confronting themselves with their current state and their wounds will be the ones who make it.